Tender Marriage Moment

For those of you who are easily offended by open affection-- LOOK AWAY!

Probably every married woman I know admits to the ebbs and flows of love in marriage. I don't know a marriage that has been trouble free, and we have certainly had our share.  Recently, one of our harder struggles has been dealing with infertility.  In the two years that we have been trying to conceive, we have spent every spare dime trying everything from nutrition to acupuncture to feng shui to reiki with little change and no baby. The toll it has taken on us has been exhausting. But sometimes, it brings us together in the sweetest ways.

For example, yesterday, I did that 1950's housewife trick of putting your legs against the wall after "relations" to send swimmers along the right path. I couldn't say why I tried it, perhaps I was just feeling extra desperate. Mark could have come back to bed and teased me, ignored the fact that I was upside down in bed, or asked me to move. I could see these responses coming out of any sane American male. But he didn't.

In the sweetest gesture of marital love ever, Mark came back to bed and set up along side me, upside down with his legs up the wall. He then chatted with me like nothing was odd about it. I know it may sound hokey, but it was pure kindness to me.

Every now and then, marriage feels like a ball and chain, but I am so thankful that to me, it usually feels like a well worn pair of Converse sneakers, a chenille throw, or a warm cup of cocoa.